Beginning the Conversation: Trauma, Neurodivergence, and Healing

Finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re navigating trauma, OCD, ADHD, or other challenges that touch every part of life. Many of my clients come to me after years of trying to make sense of their symptoms on their own or through traditional talk therapy. They’re searching for a space that is safe, neurodivergent-affirming, and sees the person sitting across from them.

As a psychotherapist in New York, I focus on helping people work through trauma, obsessive-compulsive symptoms, eating disorders, and the unique ways neurodivergence shape daily life. My approach is grounded in psychodynamic therapy, exploring the deeper patterns that keep us stuck, and integrated with evidence-based methods like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), ERP for OCD, CBT, DBT, ACT, and parts work.

Why Trauma and Neurodivergence Often Intersect

Trauma isn’t just about “big events.” It can come from years of feeling misunderstood, unsupported, or pressured to hide who you are. For many neurodivergent clients, whether ADHD, autism, or OCD, this kind of chronic invalidation becomes its own trauma. Therapy can create a place to reflect, make sense of those patterns, and begin building something new.

How EMDR Can Help

EMDR is one of the most effective tools I use to treat trauma, anxiety, and OCD-related symptoms. It helps the brain reprocess painful memories so they don’t keep replaying with the same intensity. For neurodivergent clients, EMDR can be adapted to your specific needs: slower pacing, sensory adjustments, and flexibility in structure.

Healing Is Not One-Size-Fits-All

Every client’s path is different. Some need focused work on OCD compulsions, some want to untangle eating disorder thoughts, and others are simply tired of living in constant self-criticism. What matters is creating a therapeutic space that is collaborative, affirming, and safe for all identities.

Moving Forward

If you’re looking for therapy that addresses trauma, neurodivergence, OCD, ADHD, or eating disorders with both depth and practical tools, I’d be glad to talk with you. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to do it alone.

email: nancy@paritywell.com | (845) 445-8016